The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful.
— Plato

It’s one of growth's great ironies: Self-mastery is achieved through self-surrender.

Self-surrender is all about subjugating our will to something external, something other than ourselves. We all agree, there are aspects of our nature that are not as they should be, and that need to be mended. 

I know myself. I’ve been vengeful, jealous, greedy, lustful, prideful, callous, negligent, and downright lazy more times than I care to admit. 

What you and I must come to see is that these flaws, misdeeds, and transgressions are the very roadblocks to growth, mastery and more. And it is you and me who are responsible for mastering what’s inordinate inside. We ignore ourselves at our own peril.
Say, “No” enough times to the wrong things, and “Yes” enough to the right things, and mastery is soon enough realized.  

But, self-mastery isn’t a finish line, it’s a starting point. It’s a foundation on which you can build something beautiful, unique and lasting.